The Three Peaks Challenge

CHALLENGE SEEKERS WE NEED YOU!

 

We have a few places, so make 2020 the year you conquer three mountains in one day!! This is going to be a great experience not to mention achievement!!

Here are a few of the details:

Located in the Yorkshire Dales National Park lie the iconic three peaks of Pen-y-ghent, Whernside and Ingleborough.

Your challenge is to summit all three peaks in 12 hours with the help of leader Dan Liggins from Elite Adventures.

Your first summit of the day will see you ascend 2,227 feet to the top of Pen-y-ghent, where there will be no time to rest, as you trek on through midday and towards your second summit, Whernside, the highest peak at 2,415 feet.

Finally the afternoon will lead you on to your third and final summit, up 2,372 feet to the top of Ingleborough. With awe-inspiring views and an immense sense of achievement, you will descend back into Horton-in-Ribblesdale and the finish of your 26mile challenge.

You will receive;
– Advice on the kit you will need to take on this epic challenge
– Training tips to ensure you are in the best shape possible to go the distance
– Return transport
– A breathable trekking T-shirt to wear on the day (this can have a charity logo included on the shirt)
– A qualified mountain leader that will be with you throughout your challenge

✨All you need to do is raise a minimum of £250 for the helping Harry trust. Elite Adventures will drive you and the rest of the team and look after you every step of the way✨

YORKSHIRE THREE PEAKS CHALLENGE

So these are not helping anyone..

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These sanctimonious, rose-tinted and insensitive posts that I often see popping up on the internet really drive me mad. These messages that we are meant to believe and the lessons about our new existence that we are meant to swallow.

Before Harry I was Hayley from Northampton, loved music, enjoyed art and was moving into a career in Marketing. Now I am Hayley * drum roll*.. Mum of severely disabled boy Harry and his two sisters (what’s their names again?).

You see, this is what happens ..we become defined.. never to be just Hayley again. And do you know what doesn’t help.. the messages that we see bandied about the media.

Telling someone who has a disabled child that what they are doing makes them a saint is well meaning. However for a mum who is struggling to find their new place in the world comments like this can make a person feel more isolated, defined  and un-relatable in the realms of the normal families.

Also it’s that ridiculous ideology that we’re quite often subjected to that “Only special people are tasked with looking after special needs children, the people who can handle it”  Like what the hell? Talk about ways to make a person feel inadequate and guilty when they don’t want to or can’t handle it.  Guess what stupid inspirational quotes” we are quite often not stronger, we are not  more resilient more able to find joy in the smaller things and not made of stone like your twee statements suggest.

You see we know you mean well but your posts are damaging to many… we are just people trying to cope the best way we can, we just want to operate on the same level as everyone else, no pedestals needed! we do not need praise for looking after our child we have not been given any other choice. So please quit it with the insensitive, trite, blanket statements about how parents of special needs children should feel or behave. We do not need them.

We are all different, and I think it’s important to look for the individual when you talk to anyone no matter what their circumstances – no one wants to be defined by what’s happened to them, especially when they have so much more to share and to make life about.

Encourage the person to allow themselves time; time to themselves, time to rest and time to reflect. It’s ok to not be ok, its ok to need help and to ask for it and its ok to have a whole host of feelings that nobody would dare write on a sugar coated post it note.

Motherhood is hard full of so many rules and opinions but who really owns the guide book? My advice is look after you and you will be far more able to tackle what’s coming and just be you.. with a child with special needs. You’ve got this!

What does Harry’s birthday mean to me?

Next week is Harry’s birthday… Aww I hear you think? Wow how is he four already? Normal kind of thoughts – I should be thinking. 

The truth is, I’m not – I’m panicking and this makes me feel sad. I’m thinking tonnes of tiny little thoughts. Just little blips in my head as the day goes on. I don’t want him to be four – he’s getting too big, how will we manage? This is really the pits that I’m changing his nappies at four… but don’t moan now (sheer panic) this is just going to get even more difficult.

Then I’ll be telling myself off – but at least he’s here. At least you get to see his gorgeous smiling face everyday, but it’s hard – it’s bloody hard. With every birthday comes an intense period of reflection. 

Harry turning four also kind of really confirms in a way that this is what Harry will be like for the rest of his life. And we as parents just need to get on board with it and do our best. Suck up the juxtaposition of what life should have been like, what watching him open his presents might have felt like and just try and enjoy the Harry we have now. Try and make the most of what we’ve got. And sometimes that feels impossible.

The thing is I never wanted to be a nurse, or a Carer, an administrator, an occupational therapist, a physiotherapist, play therapist, coordinator or advocate for my child but here I am. Being a mum to Harry is completely not what I had in mind and a million miles away from what it should’ve been. It not about shaping him into a person who could be let loose on society in the future, it’s more about living completely day by day to make sure Harry has the most comfortable, healthy and happy life he can have right now. 

It’s been hard to figure out what to get harry for his birthday – he doesn’t enjoy toys, instead he enjoys cuddles and tickles, us time. So for this birthday we’re taking Harry to Centre parcs to try and find some moments of just being parents to Harry. Those moments when he smiles and we know he’s truly with us, because he is and that after four years and what he’s gone through is amazing and worth celebrating.

Happy birthday to the bravest boy in the world – my Harry.

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Cycle for Harry 2019

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Sunday 7th July 9am – 12pm

Is cycling your thing? Fancy a challenge this year? Motivation to get fit?

Breeze Instructor Saffron is kindly leading a 40 mile cycle in Northants ( hilly Daventry area!) on 7th July to raise essential funds for Harry. There will be three groups (novice, intermediate and experienced) led by professional cycling instructors – so all abilities can enter, but be prepared for some hills!!

We will provide refreshments and medals at the end for all who participate.
It’s £25 to register and a commitment to raise additional £75. Every single penny will go to three year old severely disabled Harry! ( supporting weekly physio costs)
There will be a really good prize for the person who raises most sponsor money!

Please share with any cyclists you know and let’s get this booked up for Harry 👍

More details to follow.

Email thehelpingharrytrust@gmail.com to book your spot.

9am novice cyclists start
930am intermediate cyclists start
945 experienced cyclists start

Starting and finishing in Newnham (Northamptonshire)

 

EVENT: Famous American Musicians play concert for Harry

The Rotary Club of Danetre Daventry have pulled it out of the bag and managed to convince multi-talented singer and songwriters; Jesse Terry, Michael Logen AND Lizanne Knott to play a one-off Nashville-style concert in Daventry for our Harry. And we’re sooooo excited!!

On Saturday 27thOctober these talented artists will play a mixture of melodic folk and country songs at The Daventry Working Men’s Club that will make for a fantastic evening for all; and it’s all in aid of Harry.

Having found out about Harry, The Rotary were keen to help out and have pulled all of the strings to organise an evening of entertainment that will blow your socks off! All profits raised on the night will go directly to Harry’s on-going care, treatment and equipment.

If you would like to buy tickets please go to http://www.danetre-rotary.org.uk . Doors open at 18:30. Tickets are priced at £15 each. To find out more about Harry please go to http://www.thehelpingharrytrust.com. Tickets will be sold on a first come, first served basis.